Today’s word is “instigator” (noun): A person who brings about or initiates something.
“he was the instigator of the incident”
synonyms: initiator, prime mover, motivator, architect, designer, planner, inventor, mastermind, originator, author, creator, agent; founder, pioneer, founding father; agitator, fomenter, troublemaker, ringleader, rabble-rouser
When I was 11, I went to a church function, not quite sure what it was, but I know it took a long time, from early afternoon to early evening.
During this time, I was hanging out with two of my friends. They were both about a year younger than I was, and we all got bored after a while. Wandering around through the parking lot, we started talking about the problem we were having with non-members parking in our lot…so I came up with the bright idea of doing something about it.
I knew that sugar in the gas tank could cause a car to stall (I did not know it could ruin a car), but having no sugar, we decided to use milk. So, we got some of those little containers of milk from the church kitchen, and went back outside. We didn’t want to mess up cars belonging to anyone from the church, so we picked out cars we didn’t know. I picked out a car on the far side of the lot and opened the tank and went to pour the milk in, thinking it would simply cause the cars to stall. It was dark, and the car had a gap between the gas-door and the gas-cap, and this is where I poured my milk, so that it spilled on the ground. I did this on one other car, but never managed to get any milk in any gas tank.
However, cars did get damaged, and at least one was ruined, and of course, it belonged to one of the church members…and there were consequences!
Later that evening, right after I went to bed, my parents got a phone call…we had been caught! The person whose car was ruined suspected vandalism, and began asking questions. One thing led to another, and one my friends could not hold up under questioning, broke down and told everything.
While we all got in trouble, I was held responsible for the whole act because I was the oldest, and it was sort of my idea, so I was pegged as the instigator! The fact that I didn’t do any of the damage myself didn’t matter, I had encouraged my friends to do it!
I was 11, and at first, I didn’t think that was fair, but was not in any position to argue the point. It did not take long for my parents to make me see that I was responsible, even if I didn’t do any damage myself, because I was an instigator! I had encouraged my friends to commit these acts of vandalism…and the results were very expensive!
Once I was able to understand this and accept responsibility for what I had done, I actually took steps to make amends for my actions.
My amends were not accepted, but that is not what was most important, the point is that I tried to make things right, instead of doubling-down and making myself out to be a victim, or claiming that I was not guilty because I didn’t personally cause any damage.
We all make mistakes and do things we regret, it is a part of being human. Taking responsibility for our actions is part of being an adult, and a decent human being.
Just as I was held accountable for my actions, those who instigate hate and violence also need to be held accountable, no matter who they are…politicians, pundits and even the Presiden! Once they face the consequences of their actions, we can hope that they will see just how powerful (and dangerous) their influence can be, and seek to change. Even if they do not, perhaps others will be able to see how they have been manipulated to work against their own best interests, and decide to change themselves.
The conversation in our world is getting increasingly vitriolic and dangerous…and those who instigate, who stir up this contention, are making it worse! However, we are not powerless in the face of those who spew hatred and division, the truth is that it is in our power to hold the instigators accountable and to call for change. Rather than take up their mantle and turn on each other, we can embrace our differences and learn from them.
For if we all agreed on the same things, there would be no more learning, no more advancement, no more growth! Life is seldom easy, which is why it is so important for us to stand up to those who would instigate division and hate, because the only way to move forward is together!