“Carpe Diem”, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life!”, “Make the most of every day!”, “This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.”
I recently lost a friend. She was one of those people who was (almost) always positive. No matter what was going in in her life, she did her best to put a good spin on it, and keep a smile on her face. Being a natural cynic, I could have seen this as disingenuous, but as I got to know her, I realized that she was nothing if not genuine.
She was the type of person who would take these aphorisms to heart, whereas I am the kind of person who struggles with them…finding them easy to say and to repeat, but much more difficult to follow.
Of course, there are some days when it is easy to find reasons to rejoice…
For example, not too long ago, my girlfriend and I spent a few days at the shore. While there, we had a great time! We spent time in the town checking out shops, that evening we watched a thunderstorm rolling over the beach from the roof of the B & B, and then walking the boardwalk in the sunshine the next day.
On days like that it’s easy to find reasons to rejoice and be glad! When I was at the beach, I wanted to seize the day and hold onto it as tightly as I could. In the same way, the worst days can also inspire us to hope, turning us to our Higher Power and to each other for support in the midst of tragedy and loss. But what about the regular days? The days ground out at a job that is uninspiring, filled complaints, deadlines and stress, not to mention long commutes and having to deal with shopping and other chores once work is through?
How do we motivate ourselves to make the most of those days when we keep watching the clock and wishing it would speed up as we trudge towards quitting time? When we don’t feeling like savoring every moment and instead, want the time to go quickly?
I think this is a valid question: How to rejoice and be glad when faced with the monotony of ordinary days? It may be a good question, but there are no easy answers.
But then, when are there ever easy answers in life?
I don’t have any answers myself…if I did, perhaps I’d be rich enough so that my days wouldn’t be quite so ordinary; however, what I do have are suggestions!
You can take them for what they are worth (remember I have two degrees and still work in a call-center, so any suggestions can be taken with a large grain of salt).
We can start by simply, by being grateful for breathing. It seems like nothing, but just being able to breathe is pretty important to setting the tone for the day…even if those breaths are not always easy, it is a gift to simply be alive to enjoy an ‘ordinary’ day.
If we can practice the joy of living on a daily basis, despite any challenges we may face during that day, we are ahead of the game!
During the midst of our busy day, we can stop and look at the sky, even if it’s raining or snowing. While it helps to get outside, this is not always possible, so just making that connection with nature, even if it is through glass, can make a big difference in our attitude.
In regard to work, even if it is not the job we want, or even like, we can be grateful for it. No matter how insufficient, having a steady paycheck and benefits are crucial. At least we are being paid, and not wondering where our next dime will be coming from (not an exaggeration, I have been there). This is something many do not have to count on. This means that your shitty job could be one that some people would feel lucky to have.
That said, we can also make the most of the day by doing something nice for others. We can help those who are struggling with the challenges of life, by simply offering them kindness and friendship. We can make our day better by showing compassion to those who may not feel as if they have many reasons to rejoice.
We can also remember the great gift of having other people in our lives…even those we do not like very much. Every person we come into contact with can teach us something, and therefore, enrich our lives. It is even more important to have people we share a deeper connection with, like family, friends, and/or a ‘significant other’. These are the people who can give us support and show us care when life can get a bit overwhelming.
It is these relationships that add value and meaning to our lives.
For those of us who are able to get up, and get to work or school, or just plain out and about, we can be grateful for our health, even if it is less than perfect. Any day we can get up and get active has the potential of being a good day…
No matter what else is going on in our lives, it is great to be able to be present for them, and to be able to ask for help.
Clearly, not every day is over-flowing with perfection, and there are many when the joy of living seems far away, we can do what my friend often did: ‘flip the switch’ and seek out the positive in the midst of the difficult…or ordinary.
This can enable us to grasp at whatever sparks of happiness that can light up the darkness, no matter how fleeting these sparks may be.
Each day gives us an opportunity to celebrate that joy of living, knowing that no matter what we are facing we are not alone, because we have a power greater than ourselves walking with us. That power may be a deity, it may be nature, science, the universe, or simply the power of compassion shared among those we care for. The point is that having faith can allow us to face the darkest…or even the most ordinary of days and still be able to see the light of hope shining brightly.
This light reminds us that this IS the day the Lord has made for us to rejoice and be glad in; and this is especially important when reasons to rejoice are not self-evident. Like with the friend that recently passed.
Although she not only sought out reasons for rejoicing during her struggle with cancer, long before she was diagnosed, my friend always sought out the positive in any situation…no matter how dark the day, she would always be able to find a spark of happiness, a reason for rejoicing, which gave her a smile that that would light up any room.
She shared this light with all of the people who knew her, and this light will stay with us…
Even on the most ordinary of days.